You are in a loving and trusting relationship with someone who makes you feel good. But you still have worries and doubts. This constant worry about your relationship is called relationship anxiety.
Common Signs
Overthinking the little things: Regularly overthinking your partner’s words and actions, becoming fixated on social media activity or interactions with others.
Worrying about a breakup: When everything is going well, fear that your partner could end the relationship causes you to act differently – even at the cost of your own happiness.
Doubting your feelings: Overemphasizing minor differences and searching for reasons you may not be compatible.
Testing your relationship: Starting arguments or testing limits to see how your partner reacts and whether they care about you.
Causes
Low self-esteem: This lack of confidence can lead you to think your partner sees you negatively too.
Attachment style: Childhood relationships with caregivers shape adult attachment patterns, sometimes producing anxious or attention-seeking behaviour.
Previous relationships: Being lied to, cheated on, or mistreated in past relationships can make you anxious or guarded in future ones.
How to Overcome It
- Ask yourself why you feel anxious about your relationship
- Communicate how you feel with your partner
- Consider whether therapy could help manage your anxiety
Taking these steps could help prevent you from becoming overwhelmed and strengthen your relationship. Our therapists are here to help you manage anxiety so you can start living a happy and healthy life.